The one thing I’ve learned over the years, perhaps the most important thing in raising my son, is make sure your kids know without a doubt that they are loved no matter what. It took a few years but I figured out that my boy needs to know that I love him apart from the things he does, good or bad. I have to separate the actions and my feelings about them from my feelings for him. He has to know my love is unconditional. Now, the blessings I give may be conditional. If he doesn’t do homework no going out, etc. But, my acceptance of him is not based on performance. I didn’t get that growing up. Not to bash my upbringing or mother at all, but I never felt quite good enough and it affected how I approached life. Now, I know better and so I have to do better. Our kids deserve a fighting chance in this world and it starts with us. Love your kids, love on your kids..no matter what.
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